I would have thought this was a self-evident rule, but apparently some people missed that part of social studies class. So here it goes: never, ever can you demand to be invited to a social gathering at somebody’s house. This especially applies if you are merely an acquaintance of the hosts. This might be confusing for some, but if you’ve been invited as a tag along to one of these occasions, that does not mean you are entitled to return. The polite way to approach this is to start out with an inquiry, such as “are you having a potluck this week?”, and if you receive a positive response you can then ask to be included. Let’s say if, week after week, you find yourself “accidentally” not included on the email invitations, maybe then you should start to, oh, I don’t know, make other plans on Thursday nights.
What you definitely SHOULD NOT do is constantly harass the hosts when you see them out in public, berating them and trying to make them feel guilty about not including you on the emails. Maybe there is a reason why this keeps happening to you. Perhaps you are creepy! Maybe the hostess really honestly does not remember to add you to the email lists (quite possibly because you have a personality of a rutabaga, unpurchased towards the close of a farmer’s market).
What you also should not do is, when you by chance happen upon the hostess buying a coffee, sneak up behind her and try and GRAB HER WALLET out of her hands. And then, when she recovers from the shock of a potential mugging, do not then yell “this is what you get for not sending me the potluck emails!” This is not endearing to the hostess, nor does it make her more inclined to make sure you are included. In fact, she might be angry enough that she is considering disinviting the friend who originally let you tag along in the first place, for knowing and befriending such an obnoxious individual!
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“Perhaps you are ugly!….(quite possibly because you have a personality of a rutabaga, unpurchased towards the close of a farmer’s market).” those both made me giggle oh so much and confuse the hens in the early morning office silence
such rage indeed. Remind me never to cross you, EVER!
Though the more I thought about it, I am just coming to the conclussion he lacks social skills, REALLY lacks them and wants to be a part of the group but can’t figure out how. I still find his behavior creepy, but do sort of feel bad for him at the same time.
Maybe he has the ‘loneliness bug’—the friend’s version?
Well if he really wants to be part of the group, he can stop trying to mug the hosts and flipping off the camera every time someone takes a potluck photo. Pfft.
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